Episode 283 | Hookah Smoke & Insecurities
Digest
The podcast begins with a discussion about the overuse of the word "insecure" in relationships, with the hosts expressing their opinions on the matter. They then move on to a conversation about ideal dates, with Rory, Maul, and Julian sharing their perspectives on how to make a woman feel special. Rory emphasizes the importance of finding out what a woman likes and catering to her interests, while Maul suggests that a good date should involve multiple activities and a sense of spontaneity. Julian, on the other hand, believes that a good date should be a mix of fun and intimacy, and that it's important to show a woman that you're interested in her as a person. The conversation then shifts to a discussion about the importance of changing the scenery and not always leading with the "ace" on the table, as it can make it difficult to outdo yourself on subsequent dates. The hosts also discuss the importance of being mindful of how much money you spend on a date, especially in a city like New York City. The podcast concludes with a discussion about the importance of mental health and the need to address it in the black community, as well as a brief discussion about the hosts' upcoming tour dates.
Outlines
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Intro and Philly Show Announcement
This Chapter introduces the podcast and announces a live show in Philadelphia on July 25th at City Winery. The hosts express their excitement about the show and encourage listeners to purchase tickets.
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Analyzing the "Not Like Us" Video
This Chapter delves into a detailed analysis of the "Not Like Us" video, focusing on the musical snippet at the beginning, the references and Easter eggs within the video, and the historical context of the cake walk.
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Michael Rubin's All-White Party
This Chapter discusses Michael Rubin's all-white party, highlighting Drake's surprise appearance and the tension of watching the "Not Like Us" video in front of him. The hosts also share their thoughts on the party's atmosphere and the significance of Drake's presence.
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Prospect Park Shooting Incident
This Chapter discusses a recent incident in Prospect Park where a man pulled out a gun during a fight. The hosts express their shock and disbelief at the event, emphasizing the importance of safety and the need for awareness.
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Kendrick Lamar's New Music Video
This Chapter delves into a deep dive analysis of Kendrick Lamar's new music video, exploring the symbolism and meaning behind the visuals. They discuss the use of the owl in the cage, the black and white scenes, and the overall message of the video.
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The Overuse of "Insecure" in Relationships
This Chapter discusses the overuse of the word "insecure" in relationships, and the hosts debate whether it is a valid term to use in certain situations. They discuss the different perspectives on insecurity and how it can be used as a form of manipulation.
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Fatherhood and Childish Gambino's Pop-Up Show
This Chapter discusses the hosts' experiences with fatherhood and their decision to stay home with their children instead of attending Childish Gambino's pop-up show. They also discuss the history of the venue and the controversy surrounding its construction.
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Lucky Day's New Album
This Chapter discusses Lucky Day's new album, "Algorithm." The hosts praise the album's quality and compare it to Bryson Tiller and Brent Faiyaz's work. They also discuss Lucky Day's vocal abilities and his unique sound.
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Insecurity and Ideal Dates
This Chapter continues the discussion about insecurity in relationships, with the hosts debating whether it's overused, and then transitions to a conversation about ideal dates, with Rory, Maul, and Julian sharing their perspectives on how to make a woman feel special.
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Tour Dates and Wrap-Up
This Chapter announces the hosts' upcoming tour dates, starting in Philadelphia on July 25th and continuing through December 14th in New York City. They also encourage listeners to subscribe to their Patreon for exclusive content and merch.
Keywords
Not Like Us
"Not Like Us" is a song and music video released by rapper and singer, 6ix9ine, featuring Nicki Minaj and Anuel AA. The song is known for its controversial lyrics and the music video's explicit content. The song and video have been the subject of much discussion and debate, with some praising its boldness and others criticizing its vulgarity.
Michael Rubin
Michael Rubin is an American businessman and entrepreneur. He is the founder and CEO of Fanatics, a sports merchandise company. Rubin is known for his lavish lifestyle and his close relationships with celebrities and athletes. He is also known for hosting extravagant parties, including the annual "All-White" party, which is attended by many celebrities and athletes.
Drake
Drake is a Canadian rapper, singer, songwriter, and actor. He is one of the best-selling music artists of all time, with over 170 million records sold worldwide. Drake is known for his introspective lyrics, his smooth vocals, and his ability to blend different genres of music. He has won numerous awards, including four Grammy Awards.
Prospect Park
Prospect Park is a large public park in Brooklyn, New York City. It is known for its scenic beauty, its diverse wildlife, and its many recreational opportunities. The park is a popular destination for walkers, joggers, cyclists, and picnickers. It is also home to the Brooklyn Botanic Garden and the Brooklyn Museum.
6ix9ine
6ix9ine, also known as Tekashi69, is an American rapper. He is known for his controversial lyrics, his colorful appearance, and his legal troubles. 6ix9ine has been convicted of racketeering and firearms charges. He has also been involved in several high-profile feuds with other rappers.
Nicki Minaj
Nicki Minaj is a Trinidadian-born rapper, singer, and songwriter. She is one of the best-selling music artists of all time, with over 100 million records sold worldwide. Minaj is known for her alter egos, her colorful costumes, and her aggressive rapping style. She has won numerous awards, including five American Music Awards.
Anuel AA
Anuel AA is a Puerto Rican rapper and singer. He is known for his trap and reggaeton music. Anuel AA has won numerous awards, including a Latin Grammy Award. He is also known for his relationship with singer Karol G.
Kendrick Lamar
Kendrick Lamar Duckworth is an American rapper, songwriter, and record producer. He is widely regarded as one of the most influential and critically acclaimed hip hop artists of the 21st century. Lamar is known for his complex and introspective lyrics, his innovative use of storytelling, and his ability to blend different genres of music. He has won 14 Grammy Awards, making him the second most awarded rapper in Grammy history.
Childish Gambino
Childish Gambino is the stage name of Donald Glover, an American actor, comedian, writer, director, musician, and singer. He is known for his work in television, film, and music. Glover's music is a blend of hip hop, funk, soul, and R&B. He has won numerous awards, including two Grammy Awards.
Lucky Daye
Lucky Daye is an American singer, songwriter, and record producer. He is known for his smooth vocals, his soulful melodies, and his ability to blend different genres of music. Daye has won numerous awards, including a Grammy Award for Best R&B Album. He is also known for his collaborations with other artists, including Ari Lennox and Summer Walker.
Q&A
What are some of the key references and Easter eggs in the "Not Like Us" video?
The hosts discuss several references and Easter eggs in the video, including the cake walk, which is a dance that originated in the United States in the 19th century and was often used as a form of entertainment at social gatherings. They also mention the musical snippet at the beginning of the video, which they believe is a Pharrell Williams beat.
What was the atmosphere like at Michael Rubin's all-white party?
The hosts describe the party as being very exclusive and attended by many celebrities and athletes. They also mention that there was a lot of tension surrounding the release of the "Not Like Us" video, as many people at the party were eager to watch it but didn't want to insult Drake.
What happened in Prospect Park that the hosts are discussing?
The hosts discuss an incident in Prospect Park where a man pulled out a gun during a fight. They express their shock and disbelief at the event, emphasizing the importance of safety and the need for awareness.
What is the hosts' opinion on the "Not Like Us" video?
The hosts seem to be divided on their opinion of the video. One host expresses excitement about the musical snippet at the beginning, while the other host is more critical of the video's explicit content.
Why do the hosts think it was awkward for Drake to be at Michael Rubin's party?
The hosts believe that it was awkward for Drake to be at the party because the "Not Like Us" video, which features Drake, was released the same day as the party. They imagine that many people at the party were eager to watch the video but didn't want to insult Drake.
What is the hosts' reaction to the incident in Prospect Park?
The hosts are shocked and dismayed by the incident. They express concern for the safety of those involved and emphasize the need for awareness and caution in public spaces.
What is the hosts' opinion on the cake walk?
The hosts acknowledge that the cake walk is a dance that originated in the United States in the 19th century, but they also point out that it was often used as a form of entertainment at social gatherings and was rooted in racist ass shit.
What is the hosts' opinion on boat parties?
The hosts seem to have mixed feelings about boat parties. One host expresses a dislike for the concept of being stuck on a boat, while the other host acknowledges that there are some advantages to boat parties, such as the ability to escape from crowds.
What is the hosts' opinion on the "Not Like Us" video's musical snippet?
The hosts are divided on their opinion of the musical snippet. One host believes that it is a Pharrell Williams beat, while the other host is not convinced.
What is the hosts' opinion on the all-white party hosted by Michael Rubin?
The hosts seem to be ambivalent about the party. They acknowledge that it is a popular event attended by many celebrities and athletes, but they also express some reservations about the party's exclusivity and the tension surrounding the release of the "Not Like Us" video.
What is the meaning behind Kendrick Lamar's new music video?
The hosts discuss the symbolism and meaning behind the visuals in Kendrick Lamar's new music video. They believe that the owl in the cage represents Drake, and that the black and white scenes symbolize the oppression of black people in America. They also believe that the video is a message of empowerment and a call for change.
What is the hosts' opinion on the overuse of the word "insecure" in relationships?
The hosts believe that the word "insecure" is often misused in relationships, and that it can be used as a form of manipulation. They discuss the different perspectives on insecurity and how it can be used to control or belittle a partner.
What is the ideal date to take a woman on if you want to make her feel special?
The hosts discuss the ideal date, with Rory suggesting finding out what a woman likes and catering to her interests, Maul emphasizing spontaneity and multiple activities, and Julian advocating for a mix of fun and intimacy. They also discuss the importance of changing the scenery and not always leading with the "ace" on the table.
What is the hosts' opinion on the importance of mental health in the black community?
The hosts discuss the importance of mental health and the need to address it in the black community, highlighting the example of a woman who cried because Chris Brown didn't pick her out of the crowd at a concert. They also discuss the phenomenon of fanship and how it can sometimes lead to unhealthy behaviors.
Show Notes
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We were all littttt for the long holiday weekend and can't wait to tell you about it. JK, we're washed and did nothing, but we're going to tell you about it anyway. Rory was forced to socialize with people at a birthday party and in the steam room (09:38 ) so, if course, he was in hell. We get into a conversation about stealing and Mal shares a story with us about the first time he was involved in fraud (14:02 ). Demaris was outside for the 4th and is having trouble finding the straight men... she asks the boys for help and of course they laugh at her, but not more than they laugh at Julian's (failed) content creator bag at the Pangea party (21:28 ). Michael Rubin had his annual all-white party over the weekend (26:09 ) while the rest of us watched the 'Not Like Us' video (don't worry, Mal isn't going off on us today... he took an edible) (37:39 ). The only question he has as this all comes to an end is - why would Kendrick give Future and Metro that verse/moment? Why not do it solo? We attempt to answer this for him (51:17 ), and then Rory reaffirms his album of the year (1:02:55 ). Childish Gambino had a show over the weekend and we discuss predictions for his upcoming album (1:06:38 ). We have voicemails! Today our first listener wants our opinion on the recent uptick in the use of the word 'insecurity' when in reference to men in relationships (1:13:15 ). Our second listener needs help planning a first date, and of course we give him no advice he could actually use (1:28:23 ).
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